Two Rules of 5...

The late/great motivational speaker and entrepreneur Jim Rohn, Changed. My. Life! One of the most impactful things I have ever heard came from Mr. Rohn when he said, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”


Talk about a slap in the face for me.

At the time, I was in a not-so-great (or even good) relationship and was working around 60 or so hours a week. I was borderline miserable, beyond exhausted, struggling, broke, broken and pretty much not enjoying any aspect of my life whatsoever. When I heard this rule of 5, it cut me to the core. You guessed it, my life was the average of those 5 people I was spending the most time with. 

If you’re like me (and like most people), you have a similar or average life based on the 5 people you are spending the most time with. Like it or not, we are greatly influenced by our surroundings and by those we surround ourselves with.

Maybe you’re surrounded by 5 amazing and uplifting people already—Awesome! Perhaps, like me when I first heard this Rule of Five, it’s time for you to level up your circle or at least prioritize a majority of your time elsewhere. I’m not saying you need to cut anyone out of your life (only you can know that for yourself). What I am saying, is be aware of who those 5 people are for you and take an inventory. If you know you want bigger and better things in your life, if you want to grow and you want to reach your big, bodacious goals-- you need to be around people doing big, bodacious things.

How do you find those people, if no one you know is doing big things?
1) Research and Find a Mentor- there are lots of people out there doing amazing things. You can follow them on social media and heck, if you are feeling bold, you can also message them to connect as well.
2)  Read. Read. Read.
3) Get a Coach – this is what we’re here for!
4) Start your own Mastermind or Growth Group

The second “Rule of 5” that has greatly influenced me comes from Jack Canfield and Victor Hansen and essentially boils down to this—A commitment of 5 actions each day toward your goal will lead you to achieving your goal. This was explained to me using a tree as an example—say there’s a tree in your yard you want chopped down. It’s a pretty big tree and you are busy and don’t have an entire day to cut it down. Instead, each morning, before you leave, you take an ax and swing at the tree five times. Eventually, the tree will fall down.

That’s all it takes. Five simple and deliberate actions each and every day can change your life!
I challenge you, even for just 1 week, to commit to identifying (and executing) 5 actions toward your goal. They don’t need to be five giant leaps, just five deliberate actions that will move you toward your goal. You’ll be amazed at how much you get accomplished and the momentum you gain doing this!

Here’s to you and your goals!

Cassie Gaub